CATHY HUANG: February 2013

Park Sora Inspired: Korean Ulzzang MAKEUP

By Cathy H - 8:44 PM

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That "Special" Quality

By Cathy H - 12:49 AM

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FEB.27 ANTI- BULLYING DAY: To This Day Project

By Cathy H - 7:38 PM

I really loved this video and animations as well as the voiceover. It really made me think how many people are suffering as a result of taunting by others, I'm not saying everyone is equal or some other clique words. In some cases it's not true because everyone grows up surrounding by inequalities whether by family/economic background, personal traits or something that they can't chose to inherit like disabilities and the way they look. I didn't grow up with everything I wanted and the person I wanted to be- when I was little I often felt like a ugly duckling- some people grow out of this phase faster or some are stuck forever believing they will never amount to anything. To the people being bullied- there is no one to save you but yourself. Some days,week, months or even years are hard to make it through for everyone. But whomever is above, may it be the faith in your heart -never gives anything too much to handle. After all, everything comes with expansions and limitations. You can chose to have a stronger mentality after what you been through or continuously let the past and immediate circumstances torment you. Yes, people will be cruel, but unfortunately no amount of education will stop ignorant people without any intellectual capabilities to relate to themselves and others. The thing most people don't realize is that we're all interconnected- there is nothing to be "gained" by stepping on others- you will only further fall down the ladder. Whatever illusion of "separateness" people have is only a concept that drives them to emphasize those differences in their lives.

I think bullying happens because people are insecure about themselves. It's as if they become an outcast if they don't point out obvious flaws in other people. "Thank god I'm not like that" "I have friends unlike her" "Glad there's people on my side"- thoughts like that are there because we are insecure of being the very outcast we are afraid of. It has less to do with the victim because no one can chose the opinions people have on each other. I find it sad there are many child suicides from taunting in schools and people carrying on with this load inside them to their teens and adult years. It leaves a mark. I will never understand why some people feel good knowing the person they mindlessly taunted goes home at night having to deal with everything by themselves. That is a feeling of hell no one deserves to go through- especially when 10 year old children make a decision to hang themselves in a closet. The world is a lonely and hard enough place without that. After all, is a smile and nice words not better than trying to boost your ego in that kind of negative way? In the end, no matter what kind of deformities, family backgrounds, bad deeds, pasts or circumstances people been in- they all deserve to have a peace of mind that they are guaranteed the equal opportunity to experience life fully. I think bullying is a violation of basic rights, and like this video says- remedies are not so easy as people believe. I wish for the world to be kinder and if its not possible to embrace other's differences, at least don't try to further perpetrate them.

You just do it. You force yourself to get up. You force yourself to put one foot before the other, and God damn it, you refuse to let it get to you. You fight. You cry. You curse. Then you go about the business of living. That’s how I’ve done it. There’s no other way."

-Elizabeth Taylor

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EOS LipBalm Review!

By Cathy H - 4:00 PM

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Full Moon

By Cathy H - 11:28 PM

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Do You Believe In Soulmates?

By Cathy H - 11:41 PM

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Park Sora and STYLENANDA

By Cathy H - 4:42 PM

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Juicy Couture

By Cathy H - 4:24 PM

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Late Bday Makeup + OOTD

By Cathy H - 1:15 AM

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Updates + Trip Planning

By Cathy H - 11:16 PM

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Montreal Apartment Search!

By Cathy H - 12:02 PM

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Next Point.

By Cathy H - 10:42 PM

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Relationships

By Cathy H - 2:17 PM

I find myself not being able to accept people courting to me and thinking they own me after a few dates. I used to be flattered by this attention, but now I just feel sorry for them because they don't understand that getting in a relationship isn't going to SAVE THEM. Whatever void and unrest they have within them is only going to be further perpetrated as time goes on. Anyone that has a hard idea of letting of go of the fact that they simply cannot possesses people, hasn't found themselves yet.

I abhor people calling me tasteless names like their "honey, boo, sweetie" because I simply don't belong to anyone. I find it offensive they can put that kind of title on me as if we had a mutual agreement we were already together without me agreeing. Especially guys that think they can "buy out" girls with money and their simple minds. I've seen people around me worrying themselves to death wondering when a boy is going to come along and "save them" from their loneliness, desperate girls putting themselves in dangerous situations to seek a bit of affection and people in general afraid to lose the other so they strip themselves of all dignity. That is such an meaningless and tiring way to exist, depending on another person's idea of you.

Relationships mean two people have some sort of power and restriction on each other, I don't see how I can deal with that. Sure, there's the possibility of finding some "true love" but in the end I believe it brings more turmoil than love. Some people try to be on the same level with my thinking but they end up losing control and wondering how they can possess someone as soon as they like them. If true love and happiness is really what they chose, they'd know better.

I don't need any affection or reassurance of my worth from relationships, I find it so silly people claim to "solely love each other" .....there are billions of people on the world- how are you sure you've found the one? That's why people want what they can't have and always look for the next best thing. It's just a game and you can't find yourself in it. It is not the most important thing in the world.